Just when Aussie parents thought they had officially heard it all, a new gem reappears: asking your baby for permission before changing their nappy. Because, of course, what every exhausted parent needs in the middle of a Code Brown emergency is a thoughtful chat about boundaries with someone who still eats their own feet.
The idea made headlines years ago and was met with one collective, nationwide eye roll. Understandably so. Most parents were left wondering how their non-verbal, banana-smeared six-month-old was meant to accept or decline a fresh nappy politely. But here we are again, with two Deakin University experts suggesting we give it another look.
What The Scientists Are Actually Suggesting
Dr Nicole Downs and Dr Katherine Bussey insist the point is not to wait for your newborn to utter a formal statement of consent. Instead, they say the practice helps children learn about body awareness and respect early on. It is about building healthy boundaries long before the teenage years arrive and destroy everyone’s sanity.
How You Are Supposed To Do It
Their method goes like this. Get down to your baby’s level, calmly inform them they need a nappy change, and pause. Yes, pause. Then offer a choice, such as walking or being carried to the change table. Pay attention to their body language. Avoid singing or other distractions so your baby can remain fully engaged in the process. Because nothing says “Zen Parenting” like analysing the facial expressions of someone who has zero control over their own limbs.
A Good Idea, With A Dose Of Reality
The intention is solid. But realistically, parents juggling blowouts, tantrums and sleepless nights are not attending a diplomatic summit. Even the researchers admit it will not be perfect every time. So if you forget to request formal written consent at 3am during an explosive disaster, relax.. You’re probably doing fine.
